15 Completely Illogical Reasons Mom Wants Another Baby

 

15 Illogical Reasons Mom Wants Another Baby

Photo courtesy of Tabitha Odle, Alathea Photography

There’s no denying that there’s a longing–no matter how illogical or fleeting–each time a chapter in life comes to an end. Especially when it’s time to decide whether you want to continue having kids or be done.

It’s during that decision making process, or even after you think you’ve made the decision, that you begin to notice the little, ridiculous things that make pregnancy and having a new baby seem suddenly and unrealistically awesome again.

Here are 15 reasons that make mom-ing seem wonderful all over again.

1. There are so many toys and an entire playroom that need a few more years of use–otherwise, your either hoarding kids’ toys or giving them away, and that seems like a waste of an entire room full of toys.

2. That one time one of them actually did something sweet that brought tears to your eyes.

3. There’s an outfit at Target you want your kids to wear, but they’re all too big now.

4. You’ll do everything perfectly this pregnancy–yoga, classical music, clean eating, the works.

5. You secretly look forward to the hospital stay after giving birth.

6. All of your babies have hit the stage where they’ll no longer cuddle.

7. Because you want at least one pregnancy where the gender remains a surprise.

8. For 9 more months, the eternal baby bump you have will actually be because there’s a baby in there.

9. There are endless amounts of awesome announcement and reveal video/photo/post ideas bouncing around in your head.

10. Being required to meet with an OBGYN 20+ times throughout your pregnancy will also double as a checkup anytime your hypochondria kicks in.

11. There are so many names you still want to use.

12. The firsts never get old, and there’s only one way to get more.

13. There’s a higher chance at least one of them will take care of you when you’re old.

14. There are plenty of nursery themes you have yet to execute.

15. So you can take advantage of all the new developments and items you wished you’d had when your other children were babies.

 

21 Reasons Summer is a Parent’s Frenemy

 

Summertime

As a general person before kids, summer was the season to look forward to all year long. It was a time to relax, get a tan, be outside, enjoy friends, travel, read a book … until you become a parent–enter clunky toy to the head, exit summer-before-kids daydream.

Yes, it’s mostly enjoyable to spend more time with the kids. The family time and summer activities are a great change of pace, but there’s no denying that the second we become parents summer goes from being our BFF to being our frenemy.

Here are 21 reasons summer is now the season parents love to hate.

1. Someone we know will graduate and make us feel old. Bonus points if it’s one of our own.

2. The kids are home all day. Every. Single. Day.

3. Bathing suits are no longer our friends.

4. It’s too hot.

5. And sweating all the time sucks.

6. Sunscreen is slimy, smells weird and has to be slathered all over ourselves and the kids every time we step foot outside.

7. At home, the air conditioning only cools some rooms–either the kids’ rooms are way too cold and the parents sweat all night or the parents’ room has to be kept bone-chillingly cold to keep the kids comfortable. Main gathering areas are always hot.

8. Fans just push around hot air.

9. Family vacation.

10. Large bodies of water are the highest item on our worst-case-scenario list; they’re also the highest item on our kids’ to-do list.

11. It wouldn’t be summer without at least one sunburn … with peeling skin.

12. Unless it’s raining, there’s no justification for not wanting to go outside.

13. The only good time to workout is way too early in the morning or way too late at night.

14. All the good t.v. shows are off the air until Fall.

15. The Oscar-worthy movies don’t come out until December.

16. Your home has replaced the school as the place everyone’s kids hangout all day.

17. Ergo, you have to go grocery shopping daily.

18. There’s no point in doing anyone’s hair, because humidity.

19. Aside from the 4th of July, back-to-school time is the closest thing to a holiday.

20. If you dare take advantage of being able to have an outdoor event, it will rain.

21. The amount of people at any kid-friendly attraction (zoo, amusement park, museum, playground, swimming pool) is absolutely unreal. And borderline not worth it.

6 Things That Are Making Your Lifestyle Change Fail

Lifestyle Change

Photo courtesy of Flickr Creative Commons, FrasierElliot.

We’ve all seen the lists on Pinterest and in endless articles about ‘making your lifestyle change stick’ or ‘the best ways to make a lifestyle change,’ but the truth is so many of the items on those lists are bull.

If you want to make a lifestyle change–which literally means to permanently change your life–not only do you have to want it, you also have to decide to do it, regardless of what that takes. A lifestyle change is long-term not short-term. It’s not a diet or a fad, and if you go into it with the mindset that you’re only doing it to reach a goal and then you can reevaluate, you’re never going to reach your goal.

The daunting truth is that it’s not going to be easy, it’s not going to be fun, and every ounce of your being is going to fight you every step of the way. So many lifestyle changes fail because people don’t realize that and inevitably don’t want to embrace the bad to reach the good. It’s a process, and you have to learn–mind over body.

It’s so much easier to complain, make excuses and promise ourselves we’ll start tomorrow or next month or next year. I hate to break it to you, but if you’re doing that, you’ll never move forward. Our minds are powerful; they can create excuses or they can overcome excuses–the decision is ours.

“Nothing great is ever achieved without much enduring,” and if you’re not willing to endure, you won’t achieve. It’s that simple. If you’re already second guessing yourself, trying to negotiate with yourself or looking up articles to find meaningless inspiration, you have not decided to change yet.

Whether you’ve made your decision or not, my guess is you’re reading this because you want something to change in your life. Here are 6 things that you’re generally told to do that might actually be causing your lifestyle change to fail.

1. Finding your motivation. You don’t need to go searching for motivation. Your motivation is you. Yes, I want to have a better body for my husband. I want to stay around as long as possible for my kids. I want to inspire some and not give others the satisfaction of having something to gossip about. Whether I make a lifestyle change or not, the reality is all of those things still exist. My husband and kids will still be around, I can still be inspiring, and people will always find something to talk about. If you’re not changing ultimately for yourself, if the foundation of your decision isn’t to make your life better or yourself happier, it probably won’t stick for long.

2. Take it slow. No, find what works best for you. If that’s dipping your toes in, great. If that’s finding a balance, do it. But some people are the cold turkey, cannon ball into the pool type of people, and that’s okay too. Each approach has its pros and cons and is difficult in its own way. It’s about knowing what you can handle best. If that’s making one small change every month for a year and having to adjust each month throughout, that can work. Or if that’s making all your changes at once and having to push really hard right out of the gate, that works too.

3. Find a support system. Yes and no. A foundation is key to building yourself up, yes. Does that mean you have to have other people holding your hand and making the exact same changes with you? No. Sometimes it means cutting people out of your life who are making holes in your foundation. It can also mean you may just need to come to an understanding with others around you to strengthen your relationships. If you choose to stop eating meat, not everyone you know needs to become a vegetarian, but it does mean those you’re around should at most be encouraging and at least not be that person who’s telling you it doesn’t matter if you give in just once. If you’ve already made the decision to move forward with your lifestyle change, it won’t matter if you’re in a group of people doing it with you or if you simply make adjustments to your environment that are conducive to your changing.

4. Keep a journal. Like #2, this is one of those things that works well for some and completely botches the process for others. If you find yourself struggling to reach your goals or forgetting what you have done or should be doing, keeping track may be good for you. However, this may just be extra stress for others. If you’re a Type A person who’s already super organized and keeps track of everything but you’re still stuck, you may just need to throw it out the window, stop tracking and stop stressing over every little detail.

5. Embrace your mistakes. Or reward yourself. These go hand in hand. Don’t get me wrong, you will have mistakes, and that’s normal. And you should be proud of yourself if you’re doing well. What’s not smart is to constantly tell yourself that mistakes are okay or to reward yourself by giving in on a routine basis. That’s a dangerous habit to start, and it unravels the mindset of a lifestyle change. Special occasions are special for a reason; cheat days are just cheating.

6. Set goals. Goals can be good to an extent, but if you’re constantly fighting tooth and nail to hit a goal every week or every month, or if you’re only working towards obtaining some unicorn of a goal, it begins to cloud the whole reason you’re changing your lifestyle. Have goals, but ultimately aim for change and betterment. Even if you don’t hit every goal, it’s important to continue moving forward and changing for yourself. Goals are great surface motivation but don’t deprive yourself or focus on them too much.

If that list didn’t give you what you need to start changing your life, maybe Shia can with his real message and slightly comical delivery. I’m with him though. DO IT. 

 

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